Thoughts on Change

I wrote this last January. Circumstances included a potential job in another state, and the ramifications of moving (or not). Part of me wanted the passive role of not deciding, but . . . the act of not choosing is in fact a choice. Sneaky, but true. Here are my musings on the idea of change:


Change

The only thing certain is change.

How’s that for an oxymoron?

No matter what you do, there will be someone there to tell you how to do it better or what you should have done instead.

But whose opinion matters? God’s and then yours. But not theirs at all! It is a very fine line between giving sound advice to help someone in a storm and storming them with advice because you like the sound of your voice!

As usual, there is more than one side to the matter. On one hand we have the ‘wise’ whether they claim that title for themselves or if it is bestowed upon them. They a) want what is best for you, b) know what is best for you, or c) want what they think is best for you!

You are blessed to have those of the ‘a’ persuasion; these kind souls are supportive and helpful. They wish to aid you in your ventures and guard you from unnecessary spills and stumblings. That may mean that they point out potential pitfalls, or rather that they help you up after you have fallen in. And if it is the latter course of action, they will not chide or berate you, for their love and support is 100%.

Next, there are the ‘b’s’ in your life; the misguided persons who believe they control the wisdom of the world. In their sensible lives, they have seen what happens when other people don’t do what they should – aka what the b’s told them to do – and they do NOT want that fate for you. Rather, they will gently steer or eagerly wrestle you to set the direction of your path. The end justifies the means, which, most importantly, is what they know to be best for you.

Finally, the dread combination: the ‘c’. Similar to the a in the desire for what is best, they differ in those who can be either selfish in their relationships or think they possess more erudition (aka intelligence) than those around them. Usually their unwanted advice is prefaced with a ‘This is for the best’ statement. But in whose best lies their concern? They become single-minded in their quest of enlightening those poor, unfortunate souls who would be lost without them. Translation – they’re going to tell you what to do, not because it benefits you, but because they can.

No matter what decision is currently foremost in your life, change will occur because of it. You must make a decision based on the information that you currently have. There is no opportunity for ‘what-ifs’ and ‘I can’t’ – you must, and you cannot look back. If you don’t like the change, then make another decision to change the first, but there is no going back. Something will be different, and therefore it will be a new situation and it will require another decision. Big or small, life changing or simple, there is always something that you must decide.